When a woman falls in love with a man, nobody else’s opinion matters to her.
My name is Abby, a 32 year old, hardworking, single girl whose major crime is falling in love (with a wrong man). I loved Chris wholeheartedly and would do anything just to make him happy. We met two years ago through a friend and I must say it was love at first sight for me. The bond was so strong; or so I thought, and I couldn’t just do without him. Chris is a ladies’ man; hardly will you see him in the company of men. If they are not colleagues at work, they will come as friends or old school mates. Initially I was bothered but his constant reassurance of his undying love put me at ease.
Spending on Chris wasn’t hard for me because I believed spending is a reflection of what you value deeply. I gave him access to my bank account, my car and flat. To me, I was kind of practising submission to my ‘husband to be’. My friends cautioned me that I was taking things too far with someone I wasn’t married to, but I ignored their counsel completely, and kept them at a distance.
Chris began to make unnecessary demands especially once he knew I have received my salary. I soon had little or no savings. I do not get to see what he spends the money on, and when I question him, he gets angry, and become verbally abusive. He’d retort that I should keep my money to myself. At that point, I’d end up pleading with him for forgiveness since I didn’t want to lose him to another woman.
I had to go on an official trip some months ago that would last a week. Chris dropped me off at the airport and promised to pick me immediately I returned. Somehow I finished my assignment earlier than scheduled so I decided to reschedule my flight so as to give Chris a surprise visit. I knew he was staying in my flat so I got a cab to drop me off at home. I gained access to my apartment through the back door so I could sneak in on him but I got the greatest shock of my life! There was Chris, in my bed with another woman. I broke down in tears as both of them got dressed and left me alone without any sign of remorse. For two weeks, he avoided me like a plague but I finally had to find a way to see him because I couldn’t bear losing him. Instead of him apologising to me, I was the one doing the begging. He claimed he was just using the other lady but it was me he actually loved. I fell for his sweet talk and moved on with the relationship. I guess that was the dumbest move I had ever made because he never stopped seeing this particular lady though he kept telling me that he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Last month, I got the ultimate shock of my life which forced me out of dream land into reality; Chris got married! Apparently, a friend invited me for her court wedding and while we sat down awaiting her turn, Chris walked out with this same lady as his bride in the company of his friends and family. How I got out of that place remains a mystery….
I was duped with my full cooperation: only a fool could have done what I did in the name of love………….
It is a good thing to fall in love, as long as it is not with the wrong person. Most times we allow our emotions to overrule our senses, making us fall victim of ‘love dupes’. It’s not that we don’t see the handwriting on the wall most times, but we choose to ignore them and make ourselves susceptible to emotional trauma. For single ladies who can condone any rubbish in the name of love, I advise you should have a rethink because it never pays! Stop forcing yourself on any man who has little or no respect for you. If he truly loves you, he won’t cheat on you! Also, for men who play around with the emotions of the opposite sex, nemesis awaits you! Remember, what goes around comes around.
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