First Love

My name is Kate Nelson, married to Chris Nelson a medical practitioner. We have two children who are both in a boarding secondary school hence leaving me and my husband to ourselves most of the time. Chris loves his job and his kind hearted nature made his patients prefer him to other doctors in the hospital. I am an event planner with a passion for brides which avails me the opportunity of meeting people and attending functions. Chris had no time for socials so we rarely attended functions together, at first I was bothered but later gave up when I discovered he wasn’t ready to change.

I got a major event planning job and I did my best to make it a memorable one for my client. Everything went perfectly as I heard guests commending my client for a well organised event who in turn beamed with smiles as she said thank you in between. I decided to rest my aching feet as I sat on a chair close to the cocktail bar, I was thrilled with the instant relief I got when I slid my feet out of those heels. Suddenly, I was jolted back to the happenings around me when a familiar baritone voice said “good job ma’am”. I turned suddenly towards the direction of the voice only to be shocked at my discovery. Olu Thomson, my first love way back on campus was standing right beside me, starring at me with those ice melting eyes.

“You look so beautiful and elegant Kate,that man is really lucky to have married you,” Olu spoke with so much warmth in his voice. Chris hardly compliments me so how would he know he is lucky to have me, I thought within me. I told him he wasn’t looking bad either as he got an extra seat beside me. We had a long chat about our past, life and family. He told me how he had to leave the country after my parents vehemently rejected giving my hand out to him in marriage. He was so devastated that a six year relationship can just be terminated without considering the parties involved, however, he said he had never stopped loving me despite all. I felt so sorry for him especially when he told me that he was divorced without children and that was his reason for relocating back to Nigeria. We eventually parted ways after the whole ceremony and we exchanged contact while promising to see each other soon.

Olu never gave me a breathing space since our last meeting, he was always calling my line and of course got me more clients to improve my company profile. Sometimes we meet at such events and we spend more time acquainting ourselves with each other. Chris was never in the picture because he was too busy to have noticed any changes in my mood or dressing. I discovered that gradually I became used to Olu, enjoyed his company that I couldn’t help but compare him with my husband. On the other hand, my business was booming as I kept smiling to the bank courtesy of Olu’s referrals.

I got a big event job that required my travelling out of my base. Olu got the job for me and encouraged me to go for it. The pay was highly impressive thus, I was motivated to do it. I informed Chris about it but left out the part that Olu and I would be travelling together for the event. Chris wished me luck and told me to take care of myself. I guess I was so carried away by the monetary aspect that I didn’t bother to evaluate and define my relationship with Olu. I was able to organise the event successfully as Olu kept on pouring accolades on me. He later offered to take me out to unwind, which I joyfully obliged. While we were having some drinks, I caught Olu starring at me strangely and when I asked him, he told me he still has feelings for me and wouldn’t mind if I would give him another chance. I couldn’t fathom his request because I thought he had good intentions and wanted me to be successful in my career. More so, he knew I was married though not to the most romantic spouse but he is still my husband and my children’s dad! I told him to give me time to think about it because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Will I jeopardise my marriage for this illicit affair or loose all my top clients if I turn him down?……

Sometimes we find ourselves in tight situations because we permitted certain things. Some have ruined their marriages because they carelessly allowed the past into their present. When it comes to relationship with an ex, especially when the relationship didn’t end on a bad note, it is always advisable to keep the person at arms length so as to avoid any emotional attachment. Yes he is your first love but now you are married, why hold on to the past? No matter what benefits are attached to such relationship, it is best to keep off because the regrets can never be compared to the momentary gains. We should also note that we are all wired differently thus we shouldn’t try to compare our spouse with someone else. If there is any trait you don’t like in your spouse, prayerfully talk to him/her about it without nagging. Also it is advisable to focus on the strong points of our spouse and not their weak points. May God help us to always do the right things in our marriages.

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