Hijacker Series II

I am dating my boss! It wasn’t my intention initially but as fate would have it, our mere friendship metamorphosed into a platonic relationship…

My name is Kunle Badmus, a young handsome dude with a promising career in advertising. I got married eight years ago and our union is blessed with three children. I enjoy making friends and I love to play golf at my leisure. My wife Bolupe on the other hand is an introvert, a staunch believer of Christ and highly industrious. She sure knows how to turn anything into a money making venture. Her gift surely paved way for her when we had to relocate as a reason of my Job. She automatically transformed her passion for cooking into a business venture and that really brought relief to our financial status.

Bolupe and I married young, she was 24years old while I was 26. A very respectful, God fearing and beautiful Lady with lovely curves. I don’t know how I managed to win her heart but definitely it wasn’t for money because I had none at that time. Our marriage was blissful at the beginning until Bolupe became complacent in everything apart from attending fellowship. She would leave the house unkempt and the children as well. She added extra fat especially her arms and tummy which she never bothered to work on. I watched my wife grow from size 10 to a size 16 in less than 4 years. Whenever I bring up the issue, she will ask me if I expected her to remain the same after three children and coupled with the fact that her catering business exposes her to food. I tried persuading her to join a gym but she never obliged. Taking her out became an issue for me except if we have to go to Church on Sundays.

Three years ago, I got a new boss in my office, Gladys Essien is her name. Highly intelligent and extremely beautiful woman; she is a woman who has all things in the right place. We got along so well because of my disposition to my job and she being a goal-getter enabled us achieve so much in little time. Sometimes we stopped at eateries to unwind after a hard day’s job or when we hit a target. This continued for over a year and I discovered we became so close that I told her everything about me including my marital issues but she rarely discussed hers aside the fact that she was a divorcee. That was okay by me because I didn’t want to get involved with her marital issues.
Somehow along the line I started making comparison between her and my wife and I tell you, the difference was too clear. I started attending functions with her instead of my wife thereby spending less time with my family. Of course my wife didn’t complain probably because she was busy with her work too leaving the children in the hands of nannies.

Gladys pampered me with money and all the good things of life, her meals were also extra ordinary too. I noticed all the red signals though but I couldn’t just pull myself away; more so things were not in order in my home. Today I have partially moved in with Gladys while leaving my wife and children to sort themselves out. It isn’t intentional but I hope we will all be able to resolve our differences someday…

Marriage hijackers don’t go out rightly to make their intentions known from the beginning. They come after their victim subtly, using available information, they warm up their selves into the heart of their victim. Their victim on the other hand give in to their advances because they see them as a solution to their problems and the end result is that they take over their victim’s life and redirect it to suit their own desire.
Many homes are in disarray today because of the effect of marriage hijackers. Men/Women abandoning their homes to live with someone else forgetting their responsibilities and marriage vows. How do we expect a sane society when the home front is in disarray?

An adage says, ‘when there is no crack on the wall, the lizard can’t penetrate’. In most cases, if there are no loop holes in the marriage, a third party can’t come in. I understand the fact that child bearing can make a woman add weight but that shouldn’t make her loose her shape. More so, excess fat is detrimental to health. So if she won’t do it for her spouse, let her do it to preserve her life.

Complacency in marriage is highly detrimental. When we tend to ignore things we used to do before because we are so sure our spouses will remain stuck to us, we stand a chance of loosing out in the long run. Also, women should learn to be sensitive. We shouldn’t allow our work or pressure from home cloud our minds that we get lost in the midst of things happening right under our nose. This is one of the reasons most homes split and the woman will start running helter skelter for solution when it’s almost too late.

Finally, my advise is for everyone to put in their best into their marriages, if at all a problem will arise; let it not be as a result of what you did or didn’t do.

Thank you once again for your time, remember to drop your comments and contributions or send me a mail through info@iretiadeoyinleye.com, or iretioyinleye@gmail.com. Till I come your way again next week, don’t give in to hijackers!